The Sims 4 Romance Guide

Falling in Love, Dating a Girlfriend/Boyfriend or Proposing Marriage

The Sims 4: Girlfriend and Boyfriend
A Sim with his then-Girlfriend

Romance Guide Sections
Romance Tips
Relationship Levels

The Sims 4's Romance system is one of the things the developers did very well with the game. There are plentiful social interactions in that category, and excellent animations for each of them. Dating goals give direction to Dates and may reward you for performing well in them. The Guide to Relationships and Finding a Friend is relevant to the process of finding a boyfriend or girlfriend for your Sim, as you can learn a bit about the mechanics of socializing there. If you're looking to learn about Woohoo and Messing Around (Teens), click here


Here we will look at some of the popular Romantic Interactions like kissing, going on dates, and proposing marriage and how they become available to Sims. We'll also describe what is necessary to make a Sim a 'Soulmate' for the Soulmate Aspiration, along with all other levels of relationship related to Romance.

Know that Romance is not restricted to Adults in The Sims 4. This is also all relevant to Teenagers, who may exchange promise rings to indicate they will marry at some point in their adult lives, and even "mess around" as opposed to Woohoo. They can also go on Dates!

Romance Basics

The Sims 4: Romantic Relationship Bar and Social Context
The Pink bar is Relationship Standing; Steamy Exchange is a Romantic Conversation Context

The Romance Meter
When talking to a Sim, the top bar is for Friendship and the bottom Romance. At any point in this guide where I mention a percentage of relationship, I mean the bottom pink bar. This is the indication of how Romantic two Sims are toward one another.

Finding Love
If you want your Sim to get along with their future husband or wife, then find a Sim that has Traits that you like. You may also consider their appearance, as the game has a genetics system to determine that babies will look like their parents. Finding a few contacts and seeing how those Sims get along naturally is a good idea if you're going to play them in a family together. It will lead to a happier life for both of them.

As the Sims use Romantic Socials on one another, the relationship meter will rise or fall based on whether that interaction was received favorably or not. At different combinations of friendship/romance levels, you will get a different title for your Sim's relationship with that Sim, from Total Opposites to Soulmates. There is a full table of possible outcomes at the bottom of the guide.

The Sims 4: Sims falling in love
Sims Falling in Love at the Park

Relevant Traits and Rewards
There are a few things that come to mind in in the Trait/Rewards category. Sims with the Alluring Bonus Trait, gained from choosing a Romantic Aspiration will get a higher success rate on all interactions, even Woohoo. Alluring will also raise the effective level of Charisma by 2. Sims with the Great Kisser Reward will get 20% more success rate out of Kissing in particular (that itself is powerful for the variety of kisses), and Sims with Shameless will not find themselves embarrassed by any kind of rejection. If you give your Sim the Romantic Trait, they are more likely to become Flirty at any given time, based on the generation of a random Moodlet.

Relationship Status
Like in reality, Sims have different relationship status with one another. This is independent of the game's description of their Relationship Level (below). Status is an official thing between the Sims, and once in a real relationship any flirting with other Sims will result in anger out of the boyfriend/wife/whatever. Here are the standings Sims can achieve:

  • Boyfriend/Girlfriend - get this option by Asking to be. Find more information further on the page. It requires at least 30% Romance.
  • Engaged - Proposing Marriage needs 40% Friendship in addition to Romance. Teen Sims can exchange Promise Rings.
  • Married - Sims can Elope (get married instantly) or have a big formal wedding. It's up to you.

Breaking Up or Getting Divorced
Sims who are in relationships may break up or get divorced. These interactions are found under Mean and may be performed without needing to do anything special first. The Romance meter will fall all the way to -100 once you've chosen to deliver the blow. There is always an option to Rekindle the Romance, and other Socials like Remember Common Interests, that will help to bring back a lost relationship.

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If you don't want to grind out a relationship with another Sim, you can quickly get their romance meter up via cheats: Click here for detailed instructions on relationship cheats for romance.

Romantic Interaction Mechanics

The Sims 4: Romance interactions depend on several factors
Availability of Romantic Interactions Depends on Several Factors

Romantic Social Availability
In order to make a particular Romantic Interaction, like Kiss, come up, it takes some buildup. The context of the conversation notifies us of the buildup. A Pleasant Conversation does not mean you can expect a Sim to allow you to suddenly kiss them. As the level of the Conversation rises through Suggestive Encounter, to Amorous and Steamy Exchange, more Socials become available.

Still, a couple should not have to expect to build up with their boyfriend or girlfriend before going in for a kiss or even woohooing. The game accommodates those situations, and makes certain socials available directly to Sims in established Relationships, or who already have a high Romantic Relationship meter. You'll still have to turn up the heat to get all socials to appear, but don't have to do anything special to get a quick kiss before work.

Other socials are available depending on where the two Sims are. If you have access to a couch, Sims can 'Make a Move' and put their arm around the other. Massages are also possible. You are truly more in control when wooing another Sim when at home, so do try to pick that as a great spot for a date.

The Sims 4: Sims sharing their first Kiss
Sims having their First Kiss

Romantic Success

There are several things that improve the success rate of Romantic Social Interactions. First up is the context of the exchange, with Steamy Exchange giving the greatest bonus (+12). Suggestive gives a +5 boost. Next is the Sims' relationships. With 100% Friendship, it is +7, with 60% giving +6. So long as it's above 25%, you get +3. Therefore, build some Friendship before turning a conversation flirty and using Romantic socials. Sims with Level 9-10 Charisma get +12 toward success, and even 3-4 levels gives +3. Mood matters too, as you can see below. You can see the other Sim's mood by hovering over the conversation box at the top of the screen, or simply by looking at the color of the bottom line.

Romantic Success: Emotion
Emotion can have a major impact on how often your Sim's Romantic Socials are accepted. If your Romantic Interest has any of the positive moods, they'll be more likely to succeed. Some of the negatives can make them almost impossible to pull off, although you can always try to turn the other Sim's mood around by making them playful through jokes, being happy and using Brighten Day, or any other Emotion-related Socials. Those that pop up contextually, like give advice, can soothe negative moods instantly.

Note that these are the success values for your Sim, and there is a separate set for the target. If both Sims are Flirty, it's even better. Consider these relative, as the numbers for the target Sim are generally lower.

  • Flirty: +6-+16 (Very Flirty)
  • Dazed: +5
  • Happy: +4/+9 (Very Happy)
  • Confident: +4/+9 (Very Confident)
  • Playful: +3
  • Energized: +2
  • Inspired: +2
  • Focused: +2
  • Fine:: 0
  • Embarrassed: -3
  • Sad: -5
  • Stressed: -5
  • Uncomfortable: -5
  • Bored: -6
  • Angry: -3/-20 (Very Angry)


The Sims 4: Dating
Two Sims on a Date - the top left shows the Date Objectives

Dating in the Sims 4 gives you some direction toward success in your Sim's Romantic life and a little Reward should you earn a medal. You will get the option to ask Sims out on a date (under Romantic) fairly early in conversation, but should try to establish a little friendship first. Once that's done, you can select the option and, if they accept, a lot to have the date. Note that you can pick the current lot and have that encounter turn into an instant date. I liked Dating at home, since you have more control over the setting and can establish a Flirty environment with Paintings that your own Sim painted while Flirty and other items.

Dating offers a variety of objectives, and the more you can cross off, the higher your rank (Bronze, Silver, Gold). Once you've won a medal, the score will not go down so you can then proceed with your Date however you like. I've written some of them down so that you can get an idea what's expected of you. Here are the things that may come up. When planning a Date, you should have high Needs so that your Sim doesn't lose out just because they were too tired. There's no real penalty, just lack of a reward. Dates last 6 hours.

  • Main Goal: Socialize with your Date 10 Times - Some Romance counts here. Always the main goal
  • Sit and Talk with your Date
  • Have both Sims become Flirty at the same time - use Romantic Interactions
  • Have Sims become Playful at the same time - use Funny Socials
  • Joke with your Date 3 Times
  • Tell your Date a Story - Friendly/Funny
  • Have 2 Deep Conversations - under Friendly
  • Dance with your Date 2 Times - if there is a Stereo
  • Kiss your Date - build up to it!
  • Give your Date a Massage - be sitting on Couch or Bed
  • Kiss Date Passionately - if Sims are already Romantic
  • Woohoo with Date - see the Woohoo Guide. Comes up if Sims are already Romantic

There may be others, but this is intended to give you some ideas, not to be an exhaustive list.

The Sims 4: earning Gold on a Date
A Single Rose and the VIP Bucket are Dating Reward Objects

Rewards for Dates
You will find Rewards in your Household Inventory (Press F2, then click bottom left icon)

  • Gold Medal - VIP Bucket (optional Flirty Aura) $245 sell value
  • Silver Medal - A Single Rose (Decor +2) $152 sell value
  • Bronze Medal - Charisma Vol 1: Diplomacy for Dummies to perhaps do better next time $75 sell value
With no Medal, you get no Reward.

Romance Tips and Common Goals

The Sims 4:
Falling in Love means meeting someone appropriate for your Sim

Forming Romance - Buildup Example: How to Kiss
Getting two Sims to Kiss can be a challenge if they're just not compatible, but if two Sims seem to hit it off in Friendly Conversation, all you need to do is gradually work the conversation toward Suggestive Encounter and up to Steamy Exchange through Romantic Interactions to get Kiss to appear. It comes earlier with some established Relationship. The safest options to use are Ask if Single, Compliment Appearance, and Confess Attraction. After that, Hold Hands, Offer Rose, and Embrace may be good choices. Once you see First Kiss and things seem to be going well, go for it! The first kiss causes a big bump in Romantic Relations between the two Sims, and can easily lead to more. It makes them happy, and that will boost success of future socials, so it's a great starting point.

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The Sims 4: A Sim gives his fiancee a Massage
Giving Fiancee a Massage. Some socials only appear if the Sims are seated or lying in Bed

Establishing the Relationship: Ask to be Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Once two Sims have established some Romantic Relationship, you can ask to be Boyfriend/Girlfriend at just 30% (1/3 of the bar). This will not likely come up just walking up to them, but if you simply pull off a few Romantic socials, the option will appear. You may need a higher relationship with them if they already have a husband/wife or are just in a bad mood.

Finding a Husband or Wife: Proposing Marriage
The option to Propose Marriage comes up rather early just like Ask to be Boyfriend/Girlfriend. This will appear if they have at least 40% Friendship, along with a similar amount of Romantic relation. Again, build up to it and set a foundation with a friendship. Soon enough your Sim can be tying the knot. I'll do a full guide to Marriage and link it here another day.

Tip Summary
This is a fairly big article, especially when combined with the introduction to relationships. I'll summarize some of what we learned from both of these articles about Romance and finding a girlfriend or boyfriend for your Sim in The Sims 4:

  • Build Charisma - just a few levels raises interaction success rates
  • Start with Friendly... - having greater than 25% in Friendship will also boost success rates. Do this before beginning Romantic Interactions if your Sim is not Alluring.
  • .. then Take it slow - use safe Socials like Pick Up Lines, Compliments, and Confess attraction before moving on to Caressing and Kissing
  • Maintain the Relationship - Relationship decays fairly quick, so invite the Sim out on a Date here and there to keep their interest
  • Know the Mood - Hover over the conversation window to know the other Sim's mood. Good moods are more receptive than bad ones.
  • Date at Home - you can cook your Date a meal, have a stereo to dance, and access to a bed for Woohoo
  • Use Flirty Paintings - Get flirty by using a Mirror to Freshen Up then Paint. You can hang these on the wall and click them to enable a flirty aura, which will help your target's mood as well as your own Sim. Both being in the right Mood helps immensely! You may also use VIP Buckets from getting Gold on Dates!

Sims 4's Romantic Relationship Based on Friendship

Special thanks to DarkWalker for posting these status on the Forum. The following are what displays based on the Romance and Friendship levels of two Sims - the percentage of bar that is filled, remembering that both bars can go in the negative. This is independent of Girlfriend/Boyfriend or Married Status. You can of course have a strong friendship and have negative romantic interest, or have a lot of romantic interest to the point of woohoo, yet not have a good friendship - maybe even to the point of being enemies! I included the game description DarkWalker shared, as some of them are funny.. while others don't make a lot of sense. Irony, perhaps?

If Sims' Friendship is -100 to -70:
Romance isNameGame Description
-100 to -50Total Opposites"One says "hot" and the other says "be quiet". One says "black" and the other says "go away". What total opposites!"
-50 to -10Terrible Match"It's probably best to stay apart. There's a lot of dislike here. Like, a lot."
-10 to 10Despised"Things in this relationship have gone awry. Can it be salvaged?"
10 to 50Hot and Cold"Are they on or off? People can never tell."
50 to 100Enemies With Benefits"I hate you...but I must have you!"
If Sims' Friendship is -70 to -20:
Romance isNameGame Description
-100 to -50Terrible Match"It's probably best to stay apart. There's a lot of dislike here. Like, a lot."
-50 to -10Bad Match"Sometimes there's just no chemistry."
-10 to 10Disliked"This relationship is tense. Things are likely to go awry!"
10 to 50Hot and Cold"Are they on or off? People can never tell."
50 to 100Hot and Cold"Are they on or off? People can never tell."
If Sims' Friendship is -20 to 35:
Romance isNameGame Description
-100 to -50It's Very Awkward"They drive each other crazy, but they also drive each other "crazy...""
-50 to -10It's Awkward"At least some aspects of the relationship are budding, if not all."
-10 to 10Acquaintances"Neither friend nor foe - just an average relationship
10 to 25Romantic Interest"It's too early to tell, but there could definitely be something there!"
25 to 50Lovebirds"A connection of curious hearts. This is shaping up to be a beautiful romance."
50 to 100Lovers"To be in love is a beautiful thing!"
If Sims' Friendship 35 to 60:
Romance isNameGame Description
-100 to -50Bad Romance"Sometimes your gut tells you it's all wrong. And then you tell that gut to be quiet."
-50 to -10Awkward Friends"Things started out friendly, but then it got weird..."
-10 to 10Just Friends"A friend will always be there for a kind word."
10 to 25Romantic Interest"It's too early to tell, but there could definitely be something there!"
25 to 50Lovebirds"A connection of curious hearts. This is shaping up to be a beautiful romance."
50 to 100Sweethearts"The foundation of a strong friendship has forged a lasting love."
If Sims' Friendship is 60 to 100:
Romance isNameGame Description
-100 to -50It's Very complicated"Aren't love and hate just two sides of the same coin?"
-50 to -10It's Complicated"The burning romantic desire cannot be quelled, even if they don't like each other that much."
-10 to 10Just Good Friends"This is a solid relationship built on trust and good memories."
10 to 25Romantic Interest"It's too early to tell, but there could definitely be something there!"
25 to 50Lovebirds"A connection of curious hearts. This is shaping up to be a beautiful romance."
50 to 75Lovebirds"To be in love is a beautiful thing!"
75 to 100Soulmates"Two Sims, one heart."

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Marisa Stoutecrystalsays...
My couple is dating and the woman is pregnant. I want them to get engaged and married but it doesn't allow me to.
Were your sims promised to each other as teens? If so this could be what is causing the issue. If this is so then all you can do is cheat their relationship to zero basically and then build it back up. The 'Promised' interaction can cause issues when the sims age up.
Relationship Cheats Scroll to the bottom of the page this links you to and you will see the heading 'Cheat To Make Friends in The Sims 4' you will see the relationship cheats there.
Also there is an open bug report on this too, so perhaps this is your issue?
Bug Report-Sims Can't Propose
A solution I found was going to Friendly interactions and selecting "Ask to Just be Friends" option. This will clear the romance bar and the "Promised" relationship status will disappear. Now just start over romanticly and you should be able to get them married.
Of course! I forgot about the 'ask to just be friends' option! So glad that was patched in. Makes solving this common glitch much easier. Thanks for the tip. Grin
(First - Started the female alone in the Demo Version, took a while before I got the full game, Can't remember how I set her up)
She met Travis, they hit it off rather well. She moved in a few days later...
Friendship 100%
Romance 100%
They now have 2 kids together too.
Option "Ask to be Boyfriend/Girlfriend" is not available for this couple, They both want to get engaged to each other. Tried 3 hours my time, of constant romance interactions, and the option has not shown up. - Ended with them woohooing in bed, and started looking for answers. - Can already WooHoo successfully in bed, without any romance options chosen between the 2, even if both are having a bad day. (3 red moodlets each)
Sounds like you have this bug (click).
It sure is similar. Thanks for the thread, As long as the daughter can get married when she becomes an adult, I dun care if her parents are just living together...

Every game I play, it's always the parents that set the stage for the character I truly care about, Whom I skill up as soon as I am able, to max out as many skills as possible before she becomes a young adult. Did the same in The Sims 3, Now an unaging Vampire there...

Would of been nice to import the character from Sims 3 and continue playing. hehehe
I have 2 sims both their friendship bar and romance bar are at full, in their thought bubble things keep saying "go to romance and ask sim to be bf/gf" but every time I do there is no option for them to date, is something wrong with my game or am I not doing something right?
Perhaps you are experiencing this bug (click). I haven't had this bug so my sims can romance as normal. It can be related to teens being promised to each other as well.
This may be a stupid question but how do Sims get negative romantic relationship? Does it happen if someone cheats? Or do you just have to be repeatedly rejected? My other question is, how does one gauge the other Sim's meters since we cannot see them? Is the only way through interaction? Does the relationship panel give clues? Could one Sim think they are great friends and the other hate them? How would this even happen?
Sims can have an unbalanced relationship but if the NPC sim is flirting back with your controlled sim then it should be pretty even.
Negative romantic relationships happen when you break up or when they cheat and get caught repeatedly. If you have a good relationship to begin with one time cheating won't make the relationship go into the red. Basically any negative romantic interaction will deplete the romantic relationship status.
You can use cheats to get a negative romantic relationship if you want to.
Relationship Cheats just scroll to the bottom of this page.
Something always seem to go wrong on dates, once the bar tender died and another time my Sims wasting time chatting to other Sims and the game decided to choose a partner for my Sim and had her flirt with him (it was a stranger).
I have two sims who used to date and then they broke up. The prior relationship status are all still there if you get what I mean. In the relationship status there's It's complicated, it's very complicated, bad romance, broken up, it's awkward, very awkward and a lot more. I think there's almost 10 now. I hate it because it makes the game kind of messy. I'm trying to get them back together and romantic interest is now there as well. Do you know of a way to fix it?
This list of relationship states has been glitchy for quite some time now. Interestingly the last patch seems to have fixed this issue but as always fixes are not retroactive so for older games the long list of states is something you just have to put up with. There may be a mod that removes them but I'm not sure. Maybe MC Commander? Here's a link (click) in case you want to check it out. I haven't used this mod so it's just a guess that it might help.
Will your boyfriend/girlfriend ever ask to marry you?
No, NPC's or uncontrolled sims do not have that functionality unless you use a mod like MC Commander.
Well..i made to sims and itreduced them when they were teens..they got together all was well until for some reason the game gliched and it went back to before they met i met them again be he said he wasn't signle and ever since then the girl can't kiss or woohoo or whatever with him they were promised to eachother they don't get the boyfriend girlfriend and they aren't lovers..their bars are both maxed out..they woohoo only cause of him but no proposing no going steady no nothing they are soulmates too..and i have the say to just be friends option from her. What do i do? Sad
Being promised causes glitches. Try the interaction 'ask to be friends' which will destroy their romantic relationship. this should enable you to build it back up. In future don't use the 'promised' interaction as it really is glitched out and causes young adult and adult sims to not be able to get married etc.
Cherry allensays...
I have two Sims that have been together since they were teens. I had them exchange promise rings and even "mess around". I aged up the girl to young adult, and then aged up the male to young adult. They are currently living in the same household with two kids. They have the sweethearts, promised, and soulmates relationship status, and both their friendship bars and relationship bars are 100%. But they ask each other if the other is single they say yes??? And I don't get the option to "ask to be boyfriend/girlfriend" and I really want them to get married. What do I do?????? Sad
Unfortunately using the promised interaction causes this glitch. Have them ask to be friends and destroy their romantic relationship. This should enable you to build it back up.
Jessica Thomassays...
Soo.. my sim is 'just friends' 'just good friends' 'lovers' 'loverbirds' AND 'soulmates' with someone all at once. No matter what I do the statuses don;t change. Is this a glitch I'm going to have to deal with or can I fix it? Huh
It's just how the game works. Nothing to fix per say! It might be an actual glitch and not intended but the relationship status has been displayed like this for so long I doubt that a fix would ever occur. Over time in-game either the just friends and just good friends may drop off but that doesn't happen always in every safe file either. Delete the localthumbcache.package file form your The Sims 4 folder as clearing out the cache may help to clean the relationship status up. But tbh, probably not!
When I try proposing to my sim's boyfriend, it says ''it wouldn't be appropriate to marry an employee'' or something similar, even though my sim has never owned a shop or a restaurant or anything!
This is a known bug unfortunately. The bug report is here click
Sad I have 2 sims that are spouses that have there relationship for romance and friendship maxed out but it says they are lovers and I need them to be soulmates for there aspirations. How do I get them to be soulmates not lovers?
Sometimes this takes forever to trigger. Try quitting out of your game and deleting the localthumbcache.package file from The Sims 4 folder. Basically all you can do is keep playing them and wait or you could try lowering their relationship and building it back up. I wouldn't recommend doing this though as then you can get stuck with the 'Just Friends' tag which can interfere with getting the soul mates tag. You could also cheat the aspiration requirement as obviously this is a game bug as maxed friendship and romantic relationship status is supposed to equal soulmate.
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Sad my Sims romance is 70 and their friendship is 80, one minute they are flirting, my Sims goes to the bathroom and when they are back I have to ask the other similar if they are single again!! It resets and I can't even get the girlfriend/ boyfriend question Scared
Could be a mod issue so remove any mods you are using and also delete the localthumbcache.package file from your The Sims 4 folder even if you are not using mods or cc.
I have had this issue recently where the 'ask if single' question reappears but it hasn't stopped the romance progressing. Make sure both sims are in the flirty emotion and the bf/gf question should appear after some flirty interactions.
Do the tasks for dates always show up? It's only happened once., and my Sims keep having bad dates, even though they're socializing and flirting most of the time.
Tasks for dates only show up if it is your controlled sim that invites another sim for a date. In the situation where Non-Controlled sims who phone up your sim for a date there are no tasks but if you do the same actions as if there were requirements they usually go well. So, flirt while both are flirty, 2 x Deep Conversations, 3 x jokes, flirt, offer massage, kiss, passionate kiss, sit down and talk, etc etc.
Margaret Johnsonsays...
All of my sim couples (100 friend, 100 romance) have lost their lovers status on their relationship panel. Is there a cheat to get this back?
No the status tags can't be cheated in. You can use cheats to change the relationship values though which would allow you to build back the relationship and maybe gain that status. Often doing that means even though eventually you may gain back the tag you want, you may also get stuck with the 'Just Friends' status tag.
i love this game i played 1 2 3
I have a female character who has aged from being a teen to young adult but some of her romance options are blank with a padlock; she has a boyfriend (another character of mine) and they have a baby. She is unable to flirt, ask if single etc but the whoohoo & try for a baby options are available. There is no problem with her twin sister!
Could be a mods issue so if you use mods take them out and see. Also is the boyfriend also at least a Young Adult as only teens can flirt with other teens in an unmodded game.
I have two sims who are best friends and the friendship bar at the top of the screen is full, but they can't do any romantic interactions with each other. How can I fix this?Unsure
Are they compatible ages? Teens can only be romantic with other teens for example. Are you using any mods? If so check they are not out dated.
I have two sims, both young adults and it shows that they are: lovers, best friends, soulmates, sweetharts and promised. So when the man asked her if she's in a relationship it showed that she's single, plus when I go into CAS it shows that they're roommates. Someone help please, there's no "aks to be girlfriend/boyfriend option (and I'm sure that when they were teenagers she asked him to be her boyfriend) I have no idea what to do right now, someone help
Getting sims 'Promised' as teens causes this bug to happen. Try asking to Just be Friends and then building the romance relationship back up. This normally fixes it. So, for future sims - don't get them to be Promised to each other as it basically can ruin the adult romantic relationship.
this is great

Oh my god my pair is just wondering around nude in the house and woohoing everywhere but whenever they go on a date or have a bad woohoo they get embarrassed and it takes forever to get them happy again,any ideas?


Make sure they are in the flirty mood before trying any romance socials. (or if you are using WW mod then they probably don't have the right modded traits for being naked).

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Super Sim Checklist + Other News

Super Sim Text + Checklist and Video Guide! Here is my Super Sim Challenge Guide and Checklist to accompany my video guide to making Super Sims in The Sims 4 that you can view on Youtube.

This is inspired by a new series in which I start at toddler and gradually take on the major bonuses. Here's a link to the full playlist!

I now have a guide page to Tiny Living Stuff where you can learn about Murphy Beds, the new death, as well as the lot bonuses you'll receive if you manage to keep the size of your lot down with this new pack's Tiny Home Lot Type.

Let's Play Playlist

Super Sim Gameplay in The Sims 4

New I now have a guide to Making Super Sims in The Sims 4. Look for a text version within the next 72h. It won't have THAT much more info but it will help out as a checklist.

This was inspired by a series, "Let's Play a Super Sim" in which I start at toddler and gradually take on the major bonuses. Here's a link to each part for people who are interested. You can also see the Let's Play as a Playlist on Youtube.