To get around the homeowner thing, you have to enter the following cheats:
testingcheatsenabled true
restrictbuildbuyinbuildings false
After doing that, you can move and add/remove objects outside the apartment. However, if there are sims living there, the money for any and all building on this lot will come out of their household funds. This does not increase the family's net worth like building in a house does, and any objects placed outside the living area will become community objects and they will be unable to take them with them if they move out.
Also: I understand that this problem is frustrating, but please try to refrain from using excessive punctuation, capslock, and more letters than are necessary to spell the word. It's against the forum rules and does absolutely nothing to help get your question answered quicker than it otherwise would.