The Sims 4 Children Guide

School, Child Skills, Aspirations, and Raising Kids

by Pam Marsden

Children in The Sims 4
Children in The Sims 4 - Multitasking is key to running a Family

In this article, I will explain how to successfully raise a child in Sims 4. There is much more to raising a child than in Sims 3 and I personally find them to be much more enjoyable. Their interactions are cute and this helps to make up for the absence of toddlers in the game. They will keep you busy, though, so be ready!

Aspirations
Once a toddler ages up to child, the player will be able to choose a Childhood Aspiration and one Trait. There are 4 Aspirations to choose from: Artistic Prodigy, Rambunctious Scamp, Social Butterfly, and Whiz Kid. Of course, it's a good idea to choose a trait that goes well with the Aspiration. For example, Art Lover is a good trait to pair with Artistic Prodigy. A Sim will be a Child for 7 days on the Short lifespan, 14 days on Normal lifespan, and 52 days on Long lifespan.

School and Homework
Children will start Grade School on the first weekday after aging up to Child. Class is from 8:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. While at school, the child will have the options for Normal, Leave School Early, Make Friends, Study Hard, and Slack Off. Just like in The Sims 3, the Make Friends option will add other children to the child's relationship panel, while also repleneshing the social need.

There will be tasks for each level working toward getting an A. The child will start with a C. To reach a grade of B, the tasks are to reach level 2 in 1 of the 4 available skills (Creativity, Mental, Motor, and Social), and Attend School while Focused. The easiest way to get into the ideal mood of Focused is to ponder moves on a Chess table just before going to School. This will give a moodlet that lasts for four hours, which is enough to accomplish the task. Completing Homework is the daily task, which functions a bit like a Career. It will help the bar move faster. Once the tasks have been completed and the meter bar goes all the way green to the right, the child will get an increase in grade.

To reach a grade of A, the child must Get 1 Skill to Level 4. Once the kid has an 'A', it's fairly easy to maintain. It's possible for grades to fall if the minimum amount of work is not done, which is to go to school every day and complete homework.

A parent can help with homework by clicking on the child once he/she has started working on it. Unassisted homework takes a little over 1 1/2 hours to complete. Having the parent help with homework cuts the time in half. The homework will be in the child's personal inventory at the time of aging up, so you can get a head start on school if you wish. Extra Credit Work becomes available after completing the regular homework if the child has at least a B grade. Just click on the homework again and it will show up. A parent may also help with Extra Credit. If homework has been missed, Makeup Homework shows up instead of Extra Credit.

Sim Children benefit from having higher Skill levels when it comes to Homework. Each Skill that they get to level 10 will increase the rate homework is done by 70%. When all Skills are maxed, Sim children will finish homework 8x faster! Thanks to DarkWalker from our Sims Community for sharing this info!

Sim Child doing Homework
Doing Homework

Skipping School
If you cancel the Go to School action at 8:00 a.m., the child will stay home. The principal will call around 10:00 a.m. and again at 3:00 p.m. every day that the child misses school. His/her grades will gradually drop first to a D and then to an F by the time grade school is finished. I didn't get any negative moodlets until my child dropped to an F and then he had an Embarrassed moodlet. It was only for a couple of days, though, because he was ready to age up to teen. There were no other negative reactions at all. When he aged to teen, I was still able to choose his Aspiration and next trait. He started high school with a C, just like everyone else. The benefit for keeping him home was that he completed his Child Aspiration of Artistic Prodigy and gained a lot of Satisfaction Points as a result.

Child Skills
As already mentioned, children have 4 skills during their childhood years. These skills are Social, Mental, Creativity, and Motor. If a child is able to reach level 10 of any of the skills, related adult skills will be unlocked for children to get a head start or a special moodlet will be given.

Here are the Adult skills that are unlocked (allowing you to gain XP) by maxing the associated Child Skill:

If you complate an Aspiration, you will get a 20% boost to learning all Adult Skills in the appropriate category when they age up. This means they can then learn the missing skills they can't yet level, like Comedy and Painting, faster.

For the Social skill, a child needs to have conversations with other Sims. Other ways to increase the Social skill are to play with the dollhouse and talk to the large stuffed animals. Reaching level 10 will unlock the Charisma and Mischief adult skills. The child will be able to gain skill points in these areas before aging to teen.

A Child is angry over something that happened at school
This child is Hitting a Stuffed Animal out of Anger over something that happened at School

The Mental skill is gained by playing chess and using the science table. Children can also use the observatory to stargaze. Level 10 of this skill will unlock the adult skills of Logic, Video Games, and Fishing. Again, points for these skills may be gained by children before they age to teen.

A child playing chess learns the Mental Skill
Two Brothers Playing Chess to Learn Mental Skills

Creativity is gained by using the Activity Table and by playing with the dollhouse. As a child increases creativity, more kinds of drawings will be available on the Activity Table. Reaching level 10 in this skill will open the Piano and Violin skills.

Child learning creativity by using the Activity Table
Child Learning Creativity Using the Activity Table

The Motor skill can be built by using the monkey bars and jungle gym, and also by practicing typing on the computer. Adults can also have a bit of fun with the jungle gym by pretending to be a monster while children are playing. Reaching level 10 in this skill does not unlock an adult skill. It will, however, give an extra moodlet while playing on the monkey bars.

Learning the Motor Skill on Monkey Bars
Learning the Motor Skill on Monkey Bars

I found it very difficult to reach level 10 on any of the Child Skills while playing on the Normal lifespan and dealing with needs at the same time. To make this happen for my twins, I had to use cheats to keep their needs full and even had to make them skip the last day of school in a desperate push to get the last things completed in time. Playing on the Long lifespan setting will give you plenty of time to do everything you want.

Child Aspirations
Children have their own Aspirations to work on before they tackle their adult Aspirations. The Child Aspirations are Artistic Prodigy, Rambunctious Scamp, Social Butterfly, and Whiz Kid. A child's Aspiration is chosen at the time a baby ages to child, at the same time the first trait is chosen. Some detail follows.

A Child Sim playing Violin
Playing Violin Increases the Creativity Skill

Artistic Prodigy AspirationArtistic Prodigy

Total Satisfaction Gained: 1,100

Reward Trait: Creatively Gifted Children who achieve this Aspiration will build adult Creative skills faster (Painting, Instruments, Writing, Cooking).

Milestone Objectives: Have an Activity Table, and draw 2 pictures while Inspired. You must then level the Creativity skill to 5, and play with 3 toys. In the end you'll have to play instruments for 5 total hours, draw all 5 picture types on the activity table, and max the Creativity Skill.

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Rambunctious Scamp AspirationRambunctious Scamp

Total Satisfaction Gained: 925

Reward Trait: Physically Gifted Learn Adult Physical Skills faster (Fitness).

Milestone Objectives: Play on a Jungle Gym while playful, and hit level 2 Motor Skill. The next stage requires you work on the Motor Skills (level 5) and Practice Typing for four hours. In the end you must master Motor Skills and make it across the monkey bars 3 times, while earning a high score on the Typing Game.

The Jungle Gym Teaches Children the Motor Skill
Learning Motor Skill on a Jungle Gym

Social Butterfly AspirationSocial Butterfly

Total Satisfaction Gained: 975

Reward Trait: Socially Gifted Learn Adult Social Skills faster (Charisma, Mischief, Comedy Skill).

Milestone Objectives: Make a Friend and meet 5 new Sims. Achieve level 5 in the Social Skill while also making a BFF. At last you must be friends with 3 other Children and 2 Adults, while also mastering the Social Skill.

Sim Children Becoming BFFs
Twin Sisters Becoming BFFs

Whiz Kid AspirationWhiz Kid

Total Satisfaction Gained: 1,175

Reward Trait: Mentally Gifted Lets the Whiz Kid learn adult Mental Skills faster (Rocket Science, Logic, Fishing, Video Gaming)

Milestone Objectives: Be read to by an adult for 2 hours and play 3 games of Chess. Next, they will need to reach level 5 Mental Skill and Finish Homework 2 times while Focused. Your Child must ultimately achieve an A in School, craft 3 Emotional Potions and master the Mental Skill.

A mother Sim reading to her Child in The Sims 4
Mother is Reading to her Child

Managing Large Families
Many players like to have large families. This is entirely possible in Sims 4. The parents simply need to keep Trying for Baby to have as many kids as they want. It does add a lot of complexity to the game and it's much more difficult with a lot of children. The best thing is to stay organized. Keep all of the kids on a schedule with sleep, meals, showers, and school. Be sure to send them to bed with all needs in the green. Otherwise, they will get up in the middle of the night for something and then will be tired for school the next morning because they won't go back to bed on their own. Sometimes it will be better to have showers in the morning so that the kids can get the moodlets they need for school. The same goes for mornings. Make sure the children have all needs met before leaving for school so they'll have a better day. A parent or other adult can make breakfast and dinner, and use the Call to Meal interaction to get everyone to the table. This will keep the entire household on a schedule and they'll be able to take care of school, homework, and tasks with little problem. If you find you're unable to make a new meal for breakfast and dinner, try making several meals at once and storing them in the refrigerator. That way, at least the kids can get leftovers and stay on schedule.

A Family Dinner in The Sims 4
Dining together keeps a Family on schedule and gives them time to visit with each other

I don't recommend a maid for helping around the house at this time. Things were getting backed up in the house with dirty showers, dirty sinks, and trash on the floor. I hired a maid for a single day's service at a price of $40 plus $20 per hour. I didn't even see her in the house, but when she left I was charged $120 and everything was still dirty. I honestly didn't see anything different at all. So, I suggest that the family members help out with chores around the house.

Keeping everyone organized and under control will become even harder if your mother keeps having kids. A family with 2 parents, a teen, and 3 children can be kept on track by feeding everyone with a good and social breakfast, getting showers as needed, then setting each Sim to a task on days when there is no school. The teen can be painting, one child playing a computer game, and twins playing chess together. They are busy and also working on important skills. It gives the parents a chance to garden together or have a nice work out in the home gym.

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Abbysays...
How do you put clothes on pets in the Cats and dogs add on?
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Playlotsays...
Guide to Cats and Dogs, the Expansion You can either add clothes when making your pet in CAP (Create a Pet) or you can change clothing later from live-mode by clicking on your pet (Pet Care tab). Or you can take a sim to a wardrobe or a dresser, click 'Plan Outfits' which will take the entire household to CAS, click on the Pet Tab in CAS and add/change outfits that way.
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Mikasays...
Singing is also unlocked when you max the Creative Skill and unlock the regular skills
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Mikasays...
Media Production is also available
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Mikasays...
And Pet Training Skills
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Gameysays...
They can learn the pipe organ also
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wasienkasays...
You can also unlock Photography and level it after you've maxed Creativity.
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Erica Lozanosays...
Dear Carl,
First of all, THANK YOU for sharing your wealth of knowledge! Your website has been an asset to me throughout sims 3 and 4 with all the various expansions. You may want to update the child skills, my child is currently maxed in: Photography, Mischief, Video Gaming, Motor, Logic, Pipe Organ, Fishing, Social, Creativity, Mental, Charisma, Violin, Piano and Singing (14 skills total).
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Playlotsays...
So the 'adult' skill unlocks Carl mentions in the guide are linked directly to the corresponding child skill. Children can learn other skills (as you've pointed out) but those ones are not specifically mentioned in the notification a child gets as they max a child skill. Maxing the child skill 'Mental' will give a child who goes on to learn fishing a boost, if the child learns singing there isn't a boost.
Perhaps we need to clarify just what the unlocked skills boost is and then make a different list of 'adult' skills that all children can learn.
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Gameysays...
I'd be interested in a list of all adult skills a child can learn. There doesn't seem to be a list anywhere on it so a lot of trial and error
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Ezrajalsays...
Here is my current list of skills that I have gotten for my child sim so far (18 total atm):
Motor, Creative, Social, Mental (ofc the 4 child skills), Charisma, Mischief, Logic, Video Gaming, Violin, Piano, Fishing, Bowling, Media Production, Pipe Organ, Singing, Pet Training, Vampire Lore, Photography.
I have been trying to cram more skills onto my child sim but haven't any more other than these I just listed.
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Carlsays...
The list of child skills is accurate, it's just that you have to graduate beyond them to begin to use the adult versions of skills. A child won't get Charisma skill XP at first, but instead social - that's probably the best direct example off the top of my head. The boosts Playalot is mentioning are tied to when you finish the childhood aspirations - only then do you get a 20 or 25% boost to gains for skills in that category. Mental would include logic and gardening, creatives for the various arts types etc.
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sarahwhite42says...
My child just got the singing skill but it's not listed on your guide. Not sure why not. It was talk like a pirate day when they learned the skill
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Playalotsays...
Just the main base game skills are linked but children can learn other skills that come from the various packs such as singing.
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Manjisays...
Singing can also be learned as a child (guess after creativity level 10)
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isabelsays...
This is not about fertility or anything but is there a cheat to max out the childrens violin skill? Because I've looked everywhere and can't seem to find one.
thankyou
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Playalotsays...
So children need to max their child creativity skill before playing the violin starts to build the 'adult' violin skill.
So: so stats.set_skill_level skill_child_creativity 10
then you can use the normal skill cheat for violin
copy stats.set_skill_level major_violin 10
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Ezrajalsays...
I was able to get my child sim to learn the Singing skill. I got it after I maxed all the other child skills so I don't really know what influenced its acquisition.
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Playalotsays...
All child sims will go on to learn the various adult skills once they have maxed the children's skills. Only the children's skills once maxed give a boost to some adult skills, which are the ones Carl has mentioned in the guide. So for example:Creativity, once maxed, gives a boost the the adult skills Piano and Violin (as stated in the guide) but not to singing, even though children can learn singing.
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Caroline M. N. Kristiansensays...

The quest does not work. Playing on climbing frame while Sim is playful. I tried many time but there is not nothing, even if my child has been playing all night and playful. What am I doing wrong? I do not understand.

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Playalotsays...

It does work, your child sim needs to be playing on the pirate ship or the space ship from Base Game.

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Dean Wehlandsays...

What helped me with large families is having a homemaker in a 2 parent household. Also having a parent who has completed the Master Chef aspiration as the food they prepare never spoils. This way you can leave the food out and toddlers can then help themselves. The nanny service is a great help with babies/toddlers.

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Dean Wehlandsays...

FYI: At least for PS4 the Video Gaming skill is linked to the Motor skill. Playing video games helps my children sims develope their motor skill, and, once it has maxed out, they are able to learn the video gaming skill.

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Sharsays...

My child cane also learn singing skill after maxing out creativity and can now learn vampire knowledge, not sure what skill, if any, enabled that.

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Macksays...

I'm starting my 10-11th generation and my first born is a girl, the next time I made the parents try for baby, I got triplets (1 girl, 2 boys). I've been dealing with triplets (even 2 sets of triplets in a single generation) ever since then and I'm honestly freaking out again,,,,,,,,,,,, ksksks. I hope I'll survive my chaotic triplets though.



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