The Sims 4 Relationships

Making Best Friends, Socializing, and Interacting with Other Sims

Making Friends in The Sims 4
'Call Over' is helpful. This is a good way to make Acquaintances and meet new Sims

This Guide to Relationships in The Sims 4 will teach you how conversation between Sims works, how they build Friendships/Romances, and what you can do to speed up that process. I'll provide tips for learning a Sim's Traits and getting the Friendship bar to move faster in the positive direction as well as useful Socials for making Friends. We'll also list most of the Friendly relationship status, and about how far you need the bar to be in order to get to each relationship level. If you're just looking for Cheats to make Friends, you'll find those here. We will focus on Friendships for now, and expand on Romance with this guide and Woohoo/Mess Around for Teens here. If you can make Friends, you can definitely find a Boyfriend or Girlfriend for your Sim, so reading either of these should help.

Relationship Basics

Friendship, Romance Bars and Decay
For each Sim you know, there will be a Friendship (green) and Romantic (pink) bar that indicate your selected Sim's standing with the target. The further these go to the right, the more options you'll get for interacting with them. When your Sim doesn't interact with another for days, you will see these bars go down. A past friend or old flame will be easier to build back up to where it was before, as you should have more options.

Sims chat in groups in The Sims 4
Mortimer is Chatting with Beverly, Daryl, and Devon. Big groups can happen at Parties

Conversation
When Sims use Socials, they are drawn into a Chat. Each of the Sims can use a social and draw another in, to the point that your Sim may be interacting with a number of them. The Sims will Chat amongst one another in between uses of Socials. Chatting in groups seems to just be a nice visual trick to make the game more immersive. Despite how it looks, Sims only gain or lose Relationship when one of them uses a Social Interaction on another, and the gains/losses are between those two Sims. These can either be accepted as friendly, kind or taken as annoying, upsetting, etc. The exception are Jokes and group-specific socials like those that can impact everyone around. Otherwise, this holds true for 90% of other interactions.

Sims 4 Goth Family
Families have Relationships, too. The Goths are all 'Friends'.

The + and ++ you see are small or large gains. One - or two - - signify a drop. This much is obvious, but the relationship gains being directly tied to the socials used by the Sims are noticeable when in a group. So, you shouldn't just stand there and do nothing when in a chat, and are likely to be disappointed by the results if you let other Sims do most of the talking. The other Sims can use mean or flirty socials that are rejected and cause drops in relationship with one another, and their use of interactions are not as thoughtful as yours can be. Be the center of attention and queue up multiple socials on your target future pal.

Friendship Levels
For this one, I'll focus on the positive relationships in The Sims 4, although you can certainly make enemies. It's just much easier to make an enemy than a friend - just be mean. If you want to declare an enemy, the option will be under mean when the bar drops low enough. When the green bar progresses to the right, the relationship between your selected Sim and the target is building. When it reaches the following percentages, you are at that Relationship Level:

  • Acquaintances - 0-39%
  • Friend - 40%-59%
  • Good Friend - 60%+

The ability to be Best Friends is unlocked once you hit 80% with another Sim. You must ask the Sim if they want to be Best Friends, but they'll usually accept if they like your Sim.

As Sims gain standing with one another, more options open up when visiting in their home. Sims who are in a romantic relationship and achieve Boyfriend/Girlfriend status can freely sleep, clean, and cook meals in the other Sim's home without being rude. There is a lot more to what interactions are available, however...





Social Interaction Availability
The availability of many Social Interactions depends on several factors: your Sim's Traits, the Relationship Level between the two Sims, the Emotion of your Sim, and the Tone of Conversation. This is most noticeable with Romantic Interactions, as they start with minor flirting and progress to allow passionate kissing. Some Socials are age or relationship restricted as well - like not being able to flirt with Children or a sibling, and having extra chit-chat options with Neighbors like 'Complain about Local Youths', Changes in the Neighborhood, and Property Values.

A failed Romance in The Sims 4
The Awkward Encounter limits the Sim's available Romance Interactions

Conversation Context
Using several Social Interactions in a row and having them accepted, your Sim's conversation options will expand or, if negative, grow meaner and more direct. The Context is another big factor in what determines the Social Interactions you can use on a Sim. These are various terms to describe how two Sims, or even a group of Sims, are interacting. All friendly chats start at Casual Discussion, but can quickly change. The Social options under each menu expand or disappear depending on this tone. Here are the various conversation levels in each category:

Friendly Conversations
Being Outgoing or Happy can help a lot with Friendly interactions. It's easier to be Friendly when in a good mood! The Gregarious Trait may help boost success rates, as will each few levels in Charisma you gain. In fact, Charisma helps with every positive Social Interaction:

  • Casual Discussion - a baseline Context
  • Pleasant Conversation - when several Friendly socials have gone well

Funny Conversations
When using Interactions under the Funny menu, you will see the following. Having the Goofball Trait may help boost success rates, while the Playful Moodlets you get will surely help. Having a higher level in the Comedy Skill will unlock more Social Interactions:

  • Hilarious Repartee - Many jokes have landed well
  • Funny Conversation - a Joke or two and some good laughs
  • Boring Conversation - Funny gone wrong or using the same social 3x or more.
  • Tedious - Multiple Funny Interactions fail
  • Insufferably Tedious - Many jokes have failed, so change the conversation up

Romantic Conversations
When using Social Interactions under the Romantic menu, you will see these Contexts. Having the Romantic Trait can boost success rates and give you more interactions to use, as will having a small amount of Friendship with the Sim's Romantic Interest:

  • Suggestive Conversation - a Romance Social has been accepted
  • Amorous Exchange - The Romantic exchange is going well, keep it up!
  • Steamy Exchange - Multiple Romance Socials have hit the mark
  • Awkward Encounter - Things are going wrong. This can happen to other Sims when witnessing others Romance, particularly their parents. Be Funny or change to Friendly if things are going badly for your Sim.
  • Very Awkward Encounter - This Sim is not into yours, so stop it with the Pick-Up Lines

Mean Socials or Bad Conversations
Being Hot Headed or Mean may make your Sim deliver more potent mean Interactions, while also opening up new Socials. Evil Sims will enjoy the suffering. If a Mischievous Sim's interactions aren't taken as funny, you may also see these:

  • Unpleasant Conversation - Failed or Mean Social dipped Conversation Context slightly into the negative
  • Offensive Conversation - Multiple failed Friendly, Mischievous, or Mean Socials
  • Abhorrent Conversation - Numerous Mean Socials have sunk the conversation, and likely the Relationship

The Relationship Panel can be used to contact Sims, too!

Maintaining Relationships
Look to the Relationship Panel (Hotkey 'R') to see the selected Sim's Relationships. You will notice they decay. A little phone call won't do in this game to keep friendships alive; you need to have that Sim over, hang out at their house, or meet at a public place. Doing things in your own home is usually good, because you have full access to cook, and things like that. In short, socializing in person is the shortest path to Friendship in The Sims 4.

Making Friends in The Sims 4

A Sim takes a Selfie with his Friend
Mortimer takes a Selfie with his new Best Friend

Unless your Sim is Gregarious (from Social Aspirations) or has a high level of Charisma, it seems a little more challenging to make friends in the Sims 4 than it was in the past. I think this is somewhat due to a higher Social rejection rate (likely based on Traits and Emotions) and the system requiring a little more thought. For the average Sim, standing about in a group and letting other Sims use Socials is not going to lead to fast Friendships very often. The Sims are not talking with just your Sim, but interacting amongst one another. It's better to focus on a target or spread out your Socials and be in charge of the Chat session. Here are some pointers:

Gauging your Relationships in The Sims 4
Building a Friendship is easier when the other Sim is in a good Mood. Emotion matters!

Gauge the Situation
The better your Sim's mood, the better they perform in social situations. In fact, sometimes your Sim is reacting negatively to Social Interactions other Sims use on them. The other Sim's mood matters as well. You can see the mood a Sim is in based on the color of the bar or by hovering over the conversation panel in the top-center. If a Sim is in a bad mood, Socials are slightly more likely to be rejected - especially romantic ones. If your Sim doesn't even know the other Sim, don't immediately start with things like friendly hugs or blowing kisses. Get the bar toward 20-30% before you try it, and go back to what works if that doesn't.

Work on that Charisma
Charisma has a particularly potent effect on Socialization in the game. These Sims can easily win over another, especially when they are happy, primarily because it makes certain Social Interactions available earlier in Conversation. They also get a few powerful Social Interactions that are unique to Charisma. Check the Charisma Guide to learn more.

The Buildup & Learning Sim Traits
Pay attention to how your Socials are performing. If a Sim doesn't like something, they're not likely to enjoy you repeating it. If multiple Funny interactions fail, switch to Friendly. Use 'Get to Know' and 'Discuss Interests' to learn a Sim's traits. Some of these will help you find Socials that will work well - especially when Traits match. Sometimes a Sim's Trait will come out in their personality, so pay attention to your notifications. Two Bookworms or Creative Sims will have plenty of success using those types of Socials.

Avoiding Repetition & Finding what Works
Repeating the same social is going to cause a Sim to get irritated. You can do a Social 2x in a row, but a third can make the Conversation boring. It's better to rotate through some of the socials that you know work. 'Get to Know' and 'Discuss Interests' are not going to fail as often as Gossip and Hug early in a Relationship. Use Socials that don't seem too forward. They seem to have scores that determine how potent they are, as well as the likelihood of rejection decreasing as the Friendship or Romance progresses.

Try 'Ask to Hang Out' and 'Travel Here With'
If you meet a Sim at the Park or Gym, you can keep them around a bit longer by building a little into Acquaintances and then asking them to Hang Out while the conversation is at Pleasant. You may also hook them for a while by asking them to Travel somewhere with you, if they're about to leave. This is really handy when you want to build a relationship with the target and you want to avoid them walking off. They may start to, but you can grab them with another Interaction and resume the chat. Sims have very short attention spans. If you want to take them somewhere else, use 'Invite To...'.

Utilize Trait-Specific Interactions, Emotions, and Skill Unlocks
Trait-specific interactions can be quite powerful, as well as those that are unlocked through Skills. As your Sim displays knowledge of a Skill or exhibits their interests, they can easily gain friends even if they do not share those interests. I found my Bookworm interactions working well, as long as those interactions related to liking Art. When a Sim is inspired, they may share their crazy idea. A lot of Sims will take this as a good thing.

Mentoring Sims
Mentoring Sims at the Gym is one powerful interaction that players report helping them to make Friends. To be safe, you can Introduce your Sim first. You may also ask other Sims to Mentor your own, so they gain Fitness Skill faster and can eventually Mentor others. A few other Skills, like Guitar, Piano, and Violin may allow your Sim to Mentor, but those are only really useful on Sims you have control over within your own Household.

Chatting on the Computer
A slow, but steady gain of Friendship can be made by Chatting at the Computer. Use 'Chat With' to select a specific Sim and know where the effort is going. This is a very reliable, if not quick, way to make Friends or at least maintain relationships.

Sims watching TV together in The Sims 4
Watching TV together is fun and fills the Social need while also making Friendships

Multitask!
Playing Chess or Cards, eating a meal, watching television, and just relaxing on a comfy couch are all things that Sims can do together to improve their Moods while also talking. Doing these activities together will build Relationship so long as the other isn't grumpy. To work a conversation into a group activity, just use one Social on the other Sim after you, for example, turn on the TV. Use 'Call to Meal' after cooking to get another Sim to eat with yours. Your Sim's Fun, Hunger, and Social needs will go up, while the Relationship bar should tick slowly right as you use the occasional Interaction.

Use Emotional Auras and Decor to Your Advantage
Looking to make a boyfriend or girlfriend? Use Flirty Paintings and invite over the Sim you want to woo. The game's Career Rewards offer many means of influencing your Sims' Emotions, but also those of your guest. Decor itself will help Sims to be Happy, which has a huge impact on how accepting they are of friendly or romantic advances. Decorate an area and use it for Socializing. This can have very powerful results.

Realize some Sims are Hard to Befriend
Some Sims just don't seem to want friends, and will reject almost any kind advance thrown at them. If you get in a situation where nothing seems to work, you'd be best moving on to another Sim just as you might in reality.

Raw Data
DarkWalker posted some scores for Mood, Relationship, and Charisma impacts on Socialization. What we can learn from this is how Charisma affects Funny, Romantic, and Mischievous Interactions' likelihood of success, and that positive and negative moods have predictable outcomes - making it easier or harder to make an interaction a 'success'. Being Happy has the highest boost for Friendly interactions, Flirty Romance, and Confident for Funny. All the positive Emotions will boost these types of Interactions, and also give you more Social Interactions to use. Being Confident or Happy is great when you're shooting for Friends, but Energized won't hurt. Achieving each level of Relationship status with another Sim will also make Interactions more likely to succeed.

Cheat to Make Friends in Sims 4
The following Cheat will help your Sim to make Friends with any Sim that your Sim already knows. Open the Cheat Console and type:

modifyrelationship yoursim targetsim amount (anywhere from 1-100) Friendship_Main


So if your Sim's name was Alex Pinkman and the target was Mortimer Goth, you'd type:

modifyrelationship Alex Pinkman Mortimer Goth 90 Friendship_Main

This would make Mortimer Goth a Best Friend for your Sim. You can modify any Sims' Friendship status this way.

Click here for detailed instructions on Relationship Cheats.

Relationships in The Sims 4

Friendships and Forming Relationships
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Jeffsays...

Mad I have a sim with a social aspiration and i need to make friends. I have invited this guy over two nights in a row and just chatted for hours, and the friendship bar is all the way full, but it still says he is impartial. Do I have to do something to make it go to friend or am i just bugged?

Admin:

Players are reporting this happening, and it's likely they will push out a fix before too long. Would be nice if it was today, but they just did a patch on Thursday. At least you know it's not something exclusive to you, and that it's likely to be fixed.

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Daniellesays...
I have a question Huh . My sim is friends with a guy, no, she is BEST FRIENDS Crying . I want to be romantic with him, but it doesn't let me! Can I be in a relationship with him even though we are best friends??
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Emmasays...
Perhaps the guy is a teen? It's hard to tell the difference between teens and adults by appearance but you can see by hovering over the sim when they are on the current lot. A bubble will appear that will say whether that sim is a teen or adult. Best Friends should be able to be romantic.
Admin: Yeah they should easily be able to be romantic, just building up from a few easy romance socials to the harder ones. Good observation. Teens can be romantic with one another, but they are not able to be romantic with adults without mods.
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Majh5says...
No usually a better friendship means a better romantic relationship
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MadisonChickensays...
They happened to me two. when my two teen boyfriend/girlfreind aged up, they had no romantic interaction's
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Playalotsays...
That may have been due to the bug around being 'promised' to another sim. If so, make them lose all romantic relationship by asking to just be friends and then wait a while and build up the romance again. Then all options should appear.
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Alexsays...
Does it work on the Grim Reaper?
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Anonsays...

You can befriend the grim reaper, although you are unable to invite him over to your house or hang out, you can call or text.

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Eviesays...
I have seen many people try to flirt and befriend with Grim Reaper,
It is possible to get into a relationship with Grim, however many actions like woohoo are not available unless you get a mod.
There is a achievement for getting to know Grim.
Evie
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sammyxoxoxosays...
theres a cheat that can make the grim reaper live wth u but i cant find the mod to make the grim reaper fall in love wth u
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Reinasays...
There's no mod to make Grim fall in love. He's almost just like a normal sim. I have done it myself.
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Clemonysays...
Hi! Would you know the cheat for making Grim live with you? I am very curious.
Admin: testingcheats on
shift click Grim and then choose 'add to household'.
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Flowersays...
Thank you so much for this guide!!!
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Skylersays...
My two sims are romantic and their romance is all the way up but they won't propose. What do I do?
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Tidesays...
If the "Propose" selection is unavailable, your sims might need more friendship. If your sim's romance bar is maxed out, but you're still accquiantences in the friendship area, you do need more friendship. Then you can propose.
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Hannahsays...
I had a similar issue as well. I had two young adults who had maxed out romance bar and friendship bar. However, neither could propse to each other. They were boyfriend girlfriend and promised to each other as teens, and I still got no option even when the mood was right. Any ideas how to fix it?
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KittyCaatsays...
I've been having this issue with my teens when they turn into adults, their boyfriends/girlfriends are soulmates, and Promised, but when they interact with each other romantically, there's only an ask if single interaction. If you do this, the game tells you they are single, and yet you can never progress as you normally would, to becoming boyfriend/girlfriend, and on through to marriage.
Kinda frustrating. Using the 'just be friends' option seems to remove any chance of ever being in a romantic relationship with them again. I haven't tried using the cheats to tone back their relationship and see what happens, I might try it on a game that I won't save just in case it fails catastrophically.
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Playalotsays...
If your sims have been promised to each other there is a game glitch that often results in the now YA not having all the romantic options available. Ask to be just friends, build the relationship back up and now bf/gf, and proposals should be available again.
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Laurensays...
If u want one of the sims that are already created to be related to you...the cheat given crashes by game...but if u go to map screen before you click on the household you want to play, make sure the sim is in your household, turn on testing cheats true and cas.fulleditmode..manage the household...and you should be able to edit the relationships!!!! :)
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Twincicle123says...
i was testing out the friend cheat and the romance (same thing) and i made two of my people in love, i want to un-do the cheat... is there a way i can do that
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Abisays...
Yeah you just out the minus sign I front the of the number so like Gordon potter Elaine potter -50 romance_main
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Claudiasays...
Can you write down every interactions - because I have a problem with the game, Sometimes it doesn't write down what is the interaction. it shows only the bubble. And not just here. In romantically, in funny, in mischief, in mean. I will be glad if you do it Sad
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VZajdelsays...
Oh myyy...I tried for a baby 2-3 times with an elder and he keeled over and died. This is hilarious BlushScaredGrin
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Milliesays...
my sims are good friend but are not romtic and i will not level upMadMadMad
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Playalotsays...
For romance to happen the sims must be either two teens or both sims Young Adults and above.
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Sophsays...
Is there anyway to make romantic interest go down? The sim isn't my boyfriend but I don't want to be lovebirds anymore.
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Playalotsays...
Other than using a cheat, if you wait long enough the relationship will naturally decay until they have no romance bar at all.
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Tallulahsays...
You can ask to just be friends.
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Heather Paulsonsays...
you can also act mean to the target to get them to not like you
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Pinmat135says...
You could also use the "Ask to Just Be Friends" option in Friendly.
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Mags702says...
First, Carl, let me say thank you, thank you for taking the time to make this guide for us all. My question (I apologize if it has been answered somewhere, and I didn't see/find it) is: Can you have more than one best friend? I have gotten to "become best friends" on several sims, use it, and then literally 5 sim minutes later, I get a notification that says "'sim' and 'sim' have not had enough interaction and are no longer best friends". I have even used the relationship cheat to make sure their relationship level was high enough - each time seconds later, they are not best friends anymore. Is this a glitch or am I missing something? Thanks in advance. Mags. Smile
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Playalotsays...
That's ok re: repeat post, it happens (I took care of it). Your sim can only have one best friend at a time. Even though you can have the option to ask many sims once you ask the next sim to be your best friend the first BFF is knocked back to good friend or friend status. Smile
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Trojianmarusays...
Hey Thanks for all the hard work as usual, but 2 things. I noticed that although your guide says if I become a sim's partner (bf or gf) then I can sleep and cook in their house, I tried that at their house and although I can sleep there, I still can't cook. I don't know if it's a bug or because they have 2 room mates who I'm only good friends with but the roomates only get annoyed at me. Any other sims are free to cook whatever they want but if I try to cook a meal for everyone, I get kicked out. Also, do you know if there's any special benifit to being best friends with your partner? My sim ended up dating his best friend but now I have the option of being best friends with one of her room mates.
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Playalotsays...
It will be because of the other sims however the 'Always Welcome' trait by passes all that and allows your sim to do what they want in anyone's house. Being Best Friends with your spouse is a requirement of the Soul Mate aspiration so if you have already completed that or aren't going to then there isn't any tangible benefit other that having the highest relationship possible in the game. You can always make your spouse your best friend again later. Sim's are a bit fickle that way and can easily change best friends.
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Allysays...
Hey I couldn't get the cheat for the relationship to work wondering if you could help please!
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Playalotsays...
Make sure your sim already knows the target sim then type the cheat in. I'd suggest using a value of 90 which should make you Good Friends with the target. Make sure you have spelt both your sims name correctly and the target sims name or the cheat will not work.
Also turn testingcheats on.
How To Turn On Testingcheats
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Simsaddictsays...
Hi. I have a question. Can a Sim be attracted to another Sim in the Sims 4? I know that Sims can be attracted to each other in the Sims 3. I have a female Sim (in the Sims 4) & I was considering getting her a boyfriend but I'm not sure if she's attracted to anyone & I don't wanna hook her up with someone she's not attracted to. I suppose I should probably just have her flirt with a couple different other Sims & see how things go but I was just curious.
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Playalotsays...
There isn't an attraction system in TS4 as such. It is more based on traits. Some traits don't work well with others at times but with a flirty mood basically any sim can romance any other sim. It is quite different to TS3 where sims were obviously more attracted to some sims than others. So really it is about who the player wants their sim to be, not about who the sim likes!
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Simoleooonssays...
My sims were together since they were teens they promised each other back then but now (Young Adults) I can't get them married for some reason
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Playalotsays...
Sometimes being 'promised' as a teen causes glitches. Probably the only thing you can do is have them break up and then rekindle their romance. This is relatively easy if you control both the sims. It takes a bit of time and patience. If you only control one sim then it can be harder.
There are relationship cheats which would be best to use once you have broken them up in-game. Then use the cheat to restore their pink relationship bar to at least 80% and then play from there.
Relationship Cheats
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Mirandasays...
Hey I need help and I wasn't sure where to ask you. I just moved out one of my sims by having her ask her girlfriend to move in and then selecting that they both move out. I thought it would bring me to the option of selecting their house ect but instead they just both left and my sim that moved out - Daphne- disappeared from her old household. How do I find daphne and her gf and move them in somewhere?! Please tell me I didn't lose her forever :(
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Playalotsays...
In live mode, pause the game. Top right hand of the screen click on Options Menu>Manage World... Takes you to the Map Screen, Top Right again click on Household Management> and then you can look through the options of Played Sims, Unplayed Sims, In The World (in a house) or Not In The World (not placed in a house). From here you can locate sims, move them around, place them into houses, build etc.
If your sim was moved into a house you could also go to the map view and mouse over the houses to see which sims are living there. Smile
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Sarahsays...
Does the cheat work if you have two of your own made households? I made two people and I want them to be romantic and it's not working for them. Help??
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Playalotsays...
Yes! try typing (+)100 So using Bella Goth and Mortimer Goth as examples, type 'testingcheats on' next type:
modifyrelationship Bella Goth Mortimer Goth +100 Romance_main
and see if that works for you.
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alezsays...
how can I get my men to have a baby but no in the get to work packSadHuhHuhLaughLaughLaughLaughTongueCryingWinkScaredCoolSleepBlush
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Playalotsays...
You do not need Get To Work, this ability came in a free patch. Just click on a dresser with your male sim and choose 'change sim' then when in CAS you can choose the option 'gets pregnant' and your sim will be able to have a baby.
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zoek8says...
hello carl, these guides are amazing, thank you so much! i have a question about the modifyrelationship friendship cheat: i have two sims, one ghost and one alive, that share the same name, and whenever i use the cheat to make friends, it will only boost the friendship of the ghost, and not the sim thats alive (and of course the one i'm trying for). would you happen to know if its possible to differentiate the two in the cheat, or am i out of luck? again, thanks so much!
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Playalotsays...
This cheat only works when the sims know each other. Does the alive sim need to be introduced to the ghost sim maybe? Due to relationship culling, sims that previously knew each other often need reintroducing again.
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Tanjasays...
I have two sims that are engaged but back when I had them become girl and boyfriend it's set back to acquinteses but the friendship bar is nearly full and I get the propose interaction all right. Any idea what might be up
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Playalotsays...
This is a common bug that requires a developers fix. The only work around is to destroy the relationship with mean interactions and then spend the time building it back up. Even then the bug can resurface. In my games I just try to ignore it tbh.
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Emilysays...
when i switch between each houshold the relationship goes away
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Playalotsays...
Yes that is the result of 'relationship decay'. It is a new game mechanism that was introduced in the June 2nd patch. It is not a game bug but is there by design although I am very hopeful that the devs will tone this down as the relationship decay seems too agressive right now.
There is a post about it here on the forum and also here on the thread dedicated to tips on rotational play.


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Jessisays...
I can not get it to work on mine and it is making me mad or it says it's doing it but notLaugh
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Playalotsays...
What exactly is not working for you Jessi?
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Jessisays...
It's says Ithat it is working but it is not
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Playalotsays...
Are you talking about the relationship cheat? If so try typing (+)100 So using Bella Goth and Mortimer Goth as examples, type 'testingcheats on' next type:
modifyrelationship Bella Goth Mortimer Goth +100 Friendship_main
and see if that works for you.
Remember that for this cheat to work both sims must already know each other.
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Lallabellesays...
Hi Carl. Love this guide. I'm trying to get the relationship cheat to work but the target sim has 3 names I.e Joaquín Le Chien. I was just wondering how do I input the name to get the cheat to work?
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Playalotsays...
Just the way you have typed it there. (Le Chien is the sims last name)
modifyrelationship Your Sim Joaquín Le Chien +100 Friendship_main
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Lallabellesays...
That's what I thought. But I've tried it, whilst testing cheats is active, and nothing changes in the relationship bar.
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Playalotsays...
Does your sim actually know Joaquin? If your sim still needs to be introduced to him then the cheat will not work. Also where I typed "Your Sim" you actually need to type in the first name and last name of your sim.
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Lallabellesays...
She does and yeah I know that part


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