Weddings in The Sims 4

Getting Engaged, Eloping, and Gold in Weddings

A Wedding in The Sims 4

Weddings in The Sims 4 are an opportunity for the player to enjoy a big moment in their Sim's life. It is also a chance to get a few different Rewards based on how the Wedding goes. All in all, Weddings are a type of Party in The Sims 4, and you can be given Bronze, Silver, or Gold ranking dependent upon how many objectives you complete.This Guide will walk you through the process of getting Sims Engaged, then give you some pointers on a successful Wedding. I wanted good pictures of the ceremony for this guide, so I've featured the Blossom Wedding Venue by lindseyklusek and replaced Magnolia Blossom Park with it. I chose enchanted81's Three Bedroom Bungalow for their home, using the freerealestate on cheat. Both of these can be found by searching the Sims 4 Gallery for the hashtag carlsguide.

Proposing Marriage is more successful the better two Sims know one another

How to Get Engaged
Both traditional and same-sex weddings are possible in The Sims 4. In order to get Married, Sims must first be Engaged. To do this, you must build up 40% Friendship and Romance between the two Sims. They must first become Boyfriend/Girlfriend, then the Propose option will appear under the Romance menu. It's best to do this when both Sims are in a good mood and with a little extra Romance built up between them - about 60% - so that the Sim isn't rejected. The proposal is usually accepted, but you don't want something to go wrong. If that happens, your Sim can become Mortified - a very high level of Embarrassment that can cause Death. Should your Sim become Mortified, run for a bed and select 'Hide from the World' until it's over, then build up relations between the two Sims a bit more. Once Sims are engaged, you can choose to Elope or have a traditional Wedding.

Eloping makes Sims Married instantly

Weddings can be time consuming and your Sim might not have many friends. In this case, you might want to Elope to just get it over with. To wed your Sims instantly and skip the wedding, you can select Elope from the Romance menu once two Sims are engaged or get Married by using a Wedding Arch found under the buy mode menu. They will immediately become husband and wife, without needing to do anything special.

Before the Marriage

Prior to the Wedding, bake a cake and click it to add a wedding topper

Planning and Starting the Wedding
Before you begin the Wedding, know that cake is always on the list of things to have present. You can bake one beforehand and put it in the refrigerator to have one available at the time, without anyone needing to bake one. Click the cake and you'll be able to add a wedding topper. You may want to also cook some extra food, for caterers are not very good at what they're supposed to do. Thankfully, Sims are just fine with food pulled straight from a refrigerator and will still get good moodlets from it.

Planning a Wedding requires you to select guests, a mixologist, caterer, and musician

When you're ready to start, planning a Wedding can be done through the phone (Plan a Social Event) or by clicking the Sim's fiancee. When you go through this process, the Wedding will begin immediately, so don't do it until you have got your Sims into a good mood - you'll likely also want it to be morning so that Sims who arrive have some energy. Before doing any of this, give your Sims a good night's sleep - that is the one metric you can't fill effectively while at a Wedding. Weddings cost $1,000 Simoleans, and maybe more if want Sims in optional roles but don't know any to fill them...

There is a minimum of two guests, maximum 15. Optional additions are one Mixologist, Caterer, and Musician. This means knowing Sims who have at least a level in Mixology, Cooking, and a Musical Instrument. You may or may not want to use Sims you know because they could have low levels. A Sim cannot fill more than one role at a time. Hiring someone to fill these roles costs $250 each, so you can expect the Wedding to cost from $1,000-$1,750 if you choose to hire Sims to do all three.

The Wedding

Earning Gold at a Wedding means completing objectives to make the party better

Weddings last up to 9 hours. You can click the timer in the party interface to end it early, though it's best to try to pursue the listed goals and get the rewards. You should attempt to do as many as possible, since it'll give some of the money back in the form of rewards. Use both Bride and Groom to do those that take longer, like having food four times. It also makes the experience more like a real Wedding. Pause the game, and one can be working on one objective while the other takes care of a different one. This is key to getting Gold - knocking them out one by one to fill the meter. Each of the three segments represents a medal - fill the first to get a bronze, the second to get a silver, and fill all meters to get a gold for the Wedding. If the first bar isn't filled, you won't get a medal at all.

The Bride and Groom after exchanging vows

Main Goal: Marry your Bride/Groom
Do this first or at least very early in the party. That way, you have plenty of time to enjoy the experience. This will make other objectives pop up, as 'Have guests watch the ceremony' is always an early objective. You can do this by clicking the other Sim or a Wedding Arch and picking 'Get Married to X'. First, do Exchange Voews once they are together, then a second 'Get Married' to put the rings on. Once this is over, you can pick away at other objectives while enjoying the gathering of Sims.

Guests will spawn at your chosen wedding lot, ready to party. Please them to earn a Gold Medal and the rewards below

Other Wedding Objectives
The following are the objectives that may pop up during a Wedding. You're sure to have most of them, but not all:

  • Have guests watch the ceremony
  • Have 3 drinks
  • Thank a guest for coming
  • Talk to guests for 4 hours
  • Take the first slice
  • Eat food 4 times
  • Have betrothed use Romance interactions 3 times
Top: the appliances and tea set you get for Gold. Below are the Pillar and Centerpiece

Rewards for Bronze, Silver, and Gold Weddings:
Three Rewards are offered for completing a Wedding with one of the three medals. You will find the reward in your Sim's Household Inventory (F2, bottom left) once they get home. The Bronze reward seems to be a gag gift:

  • Bronze - Charisma Vol. 1: Diplomacy for Dummies. A Skill book for Charisma
  • Silver or Higher - Wedding Pillar with Floral Basket and an In Full Bloom Centerpiece
  • Gold - Royal Crabtree Tea Set, The Food Annihilator, and Tea Magic Personal Brewer along with Silver Rewards

Relationships in The Sims 4

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Weddings: Securing a Husband or Wife

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I really want my two lovers to move in together and have children, however I don't want them to get married. Is this possible?
Jackson Bienhag
2nd September 2015 5:17pm
I'm thinking the same thingGrin
5th September 2015 7:09am
It is possible, you'll have to become friends with them first and use friendly interactions. Eventually "Ask to move in" will pop up. Alternatively, you can also go into Manage Worlds and merge them together
10th September 2015 9:23am
Yes. There is an "ask to move in" option in either friendly or romance if you have high relationships. Weddings are just for roleplaying, rewards, and it will keep most old love interests off their back.
7th November 2015 12:16pm
Mine are just dating and had children. Then I broke up with him and became friends again.Wink
16th November 2015 9:00am
Yes its possible in the friendly choice it sometimes says move in
27th December 2015 1:44pm
You could just go to Manage Worlds and Find the button with 2 arrows and that find both of the households and move the girl into the boys house or the girl into the boys house
31st December 2015 1:33am
you said move the girl into the boys house twiceShockedHuh
31st March 2016 9:16pm
A Magical Potato
Sad great now I feel like my sims' wedding was crappy! The lot was epic tho Tongue
17th September 2015 9:51pm
My marriage was somewhat ruined when half of the brides family decided to die during the ceremony...
19th September 2015 1:10pm
Anna Sturges
Did they really?
22nd January 2016 8:52pm
OML what! Scared
13th May 2016 10:33am
Jack Sparrow's Cousin's Wife
I am going to every wedding in my family from now on. Just to check.... ScaredScaredScaredScaredScared
4th July 2016 12:09am
Crazy simmer
lol omg did they get a sad mood let Shockedor were they happy with their wedding?ScaredLaugh
8th December 2016 3:15am
My groom started hitting on my sims sisters only right after they got married.
18th January 2017 4:39am
If you do the main goal first your wedding may never reach gold! It is safer to do some of the smaller things first, like Thank Guests for Coming. If you want really good screenies without guests popping up and photo bombing, get your two fiancees placed, pause the game, fence them in so guests can't approach too closely, and proceed with the wedding. With weddings the pause button is your life saver and can make the difference between a gold wedding or not. If you achieve gold you get the gold rewards AND the two floral items.
23rd September 2015 2:04pm
Is it possible to get another sim, that I'm not controlling, to propose to my sim ??
16th October 2015 9:24pm
I don't think so.... You will just have to have your sim propose Sleep
16th November 2015 9:02am
If you go onto manage worlds then click on your desired sims household it should let you play. You can then just play as him as you propose to your sim Smile
18th June 2016 11:27am
Why isn't that my female sim take the last name of her spouse once married? Sad
Also, I made a chapel but when planning the event it doesn't show up as one of the locations to pick; it's a neutral lot where visitors can go .....
24th October 2015 5:29pm
Social events can't happen on general lots. Learned that the hard way.
2nd December 2015 1:22pm
The lot you use has to be a park or the house of either sim. Found that out the hard way when designing my own venue.
7th December 2015 6:50pm
Change the lot type to 'Park' and then you can have weddings there.
13th January 2016 3:50pm
Rebecca Politzer
its 2016 not everyone dose that in real life, just change it in CAS.
29th April 2016 2:20am
I've got a lot of friends but I can't invite them in my social events. why is that?
19th November 2015 11:03am
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