Weddings in The Sims 4
Getting Engaged, Eloping, and Gold in Weddings
A Wedding in The Sims 4
Weddings in The Sims 4 are an opportunity for the player to enjoy a big moment in their Sim's life. It is also a chance to get a few different Rewards based on how the Wedding goes. All in all, Weddings are a type of Party in The Sims 4, and you can be given Bronze, Silver, or Gold ranking dependent upon how many objectives you complete.This Guide will walk you through the process of getting Sims Engaged, then give you some pointers on a successful Wedding. I wanted good pictures of the ceremony for this guide, so I've featured the Blossom Wedding Venue by lindseyklusek and replaced Magnolia Blossom Park with it. I chose enchanted81's Three Bedroom Bungalow for their home, using the freerealestate on cheat. Both of these can be found by searching the Sims 4 Gallery for the hashtag carlsguide.
Proposing Marriage is more successful the better two Sims know one another
How to Get Engaged
Both traditional and same-sex weddings are possible in The Sims 4. In order to get Married, Sims must first be Engaged. To do this, you must build up 40% Friendship and Romance between the two Sims. They must first become Boyfriend/Girlfriend, then the Propose option will appear under the Romance menu. It's best to do this when both Sims are in a good mood and with a little extra Romance built up between them - about 60% - so that the Sim isn't rejected. The proposal is usually accepted, but you don't want something to go wrong. If that happens, your Sim can become Mortified - a very high level of Embarrassment that can cause Death. Should your Sim become Mortified, run for a bed and select 'Hide from the World' until it's over, then build up relations between the two Sims a bit more. Once Sims are engaged, you can choose to Elope or have a traditional Wedding.
Eloping makes Sims Married instantly
Weddings can be time consuming and your Sim might not have many friends. In this case, you might want to Elope to just get it over with. To wed your Sims instantly and skip the wedding, you can select Elope from the Romance menu once two Sims are engaged or get Married by using a Wedding Arch found under the buy mode menu. They will immediately become husband and wife, without needing to do anything special.
Before the Marriage
Prior to the Wedding, bake a cake and click it to add a wedding topper
Planning and Starting the Wedding
Before you begin the Wedding, know that cake is always on the list of things to have present. You can bake one beforehand and put it in the refrigerator to have one available at the time, without anyone needing to bake one. Click the cake and you'll be able to add a wedding topper. You may want to also cook some extra food, for caterers are not very good at what they're supposed to do. Thankfully, Sims are just fine with food pulled straight from a refrigerator and will still get good moodlets from it.
Planning a Wedding requires you to select guests, a mixologist, caterer, and musician
When you're ready to start, planning a Wedding can be done through the phone (Plan a Social Event) or by clicking the Sim's fiancee. When you go through this process, the Wedding will begin immediately, so don't do it until you have got your Sims into a good mood - you'll likely also want it to be morning so that Sims who arrive have some energy. Before doing any of this, give your Sims a good night's sleep - that is the one metric you can't fill effectively while at a Wedding. Weddings cost $1,000 Simoleans, and maybe more if want Sims in optional roles but don't know any to fill them...
There is a minimum of two guests, maximum 15. Optional additions are one Mixologist, Caterer, and Musician. This means knowing Sims who have at least a level in Mixology, Cooking, and a Musical Instrument. You may or may not want to use Sims you know because they could have low levels. A Sim cannot fill more than one role at a time. Hiring someone to fill these roles costs $250 each, so you can expect the Wedding to cost from $1,000-$1,750 if you choose to hire Sims to do all three.
Earning Gold at a Wedding means completing objectives to make the party better
Weddings last up to 9 hours. You can click the timer in the party interface to end it early, though it's best to try to pursue the listed goals and get the rewards. You should attempt to do as many as possible, since it'll give some of the money back in the form of rewards. Use both Bride and Groom to do those that take longer, like having food four times. It also makes the experience more like a real Wedding. Pause the game, and one can be working on one objective while the other takes care of a different one. This is key to getting Gold - knocking them out one by one to fill the meter. Each of the three segments represents a medal - fill the first to get a bronze, the second to get a silver, and fill all meters to get a gold for the Wedding. If the first bar isn't filled, you won't get a medal at all.
The Bride and Groom after exchanging vows
Main Goal: Marry your Bride/Groom
Do this first or at least very early in the party. That way, you have plenty of time to enjoy the experience. This will make other objectives pop up, as 'Have guests watch the ceremony' is always an early objective. You can do this by clicking the other Sim or a Wedding Arch and picking 'Get Married to X'. First, do Exchange Voews once they are together, then a second 'Get Married' to put the rings on. Once this is over, you can pick away at other objectives while enjoying the gathering of Sims.
Guests will spawn at your chosen wedding lot, ready to party. Please them to earn a Gold Medal and the rewards below
Other Wedding Objectives
The following are the objectives that may pop up during a Wedding. You're sure to have most of them, but not all:
- Have guests watch the ceremony
- Have 3 drinks
- Thank a guest for coming
- Talk to guests for 4 hours
- Take the first slice
- Eat food 4 times
- Have betrothed use Romance interactions 3 times
Top: the appliances and tea set you get for Gold. Below are the Pillar and Centerpiece
Rewards for Bronze, Silver, and Gold Weddings:
Three Rewards are offered for completing a Wedding with one of the three medals. You will find the reward in your Sim's Household Inventory (F2, bottom left) once they get home. The Bronze reward seems to be a gag gift:
- Bronze - Charisma Vol. 1: Diplomacy for Dummies. A Skill book for Charisma
- Silver or Higher - Wedding Pillar with Floral Basket and an In Full Bloom Centerpiece
- Gold - Royal Crabtree Tea Set, The Food Annihilator, and Tea Magic Personal Brewer along with Silver Rewards
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great now I feel like my sims' wedding was crappy! The lot was epic tho
Also, I made a chapel but when planning the event it doesn't show up as one of the locations to pick; it's a neutral lot where visitors can go .....
It needs to either be a park, par, museum or lounge. I would make it a lounge, as lounges require most of the stuff you need for a wedding anyway, so you wont need to add much extra stuff to make the game accept it as one.
IIRC at a bare minimum you will need seating for 15 sims, a wedding arch, a kitchen, a bar, a musical instrument (usually a piano) and a table to place the wedding cake on.
Obviously you will need toilets, at least 4 IMO and extra tables for food and sims to sit and eat at. And keep it compact so you don't get half your sims wandering off to the far corner a 60x60 lot when you want to take the vows.
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And a guide to using the Gallery . In this guide there is a section on how to place homes from the gallery and a link on how to place community lots.
If they are teens and are promised to each other then the other interactions may not show up. It seems as if the promised interaction glitches out the others somehow.
You could try some mean interactions to lower the relationships and then build it back up to see if g/f triggers. Or delete the localthumbcache.package file from your TheSims4 folder and see if that helps.
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