Weddings in The Sims 4

Getting Engaged, Eloping, and Gold in Weddings

A Wedding in The Sims 4

Weddings in The Sims 4 are an opportunity for the player to enjoy a big moment in their Sim's life. It is also a chance to get a few different Rewards based on how the Wedding goes. All in all, Weddings are a type of Party in The Sims 4, and you can be given Bronze, Silver, or Gold ranking dependent upon how many objectives you complete.This Guide will walk you through the process of getting Sims Engaged, then give you some pointers on a successful Wedding. I wanted good pictures of the ceremony for this guide, so I've featured the Blossom Wedding Venue by lindseyklusek and replaced Magnolia Blossom Park with it. I chose enchanted81's Three Bedroom Bungalow for their home, using the freerealestate on cheat. Both of these can be found by searching the Sims 4 Gallery for the hashtag carlsguide.

Proposing Marriage is more successful the better two Sims know one another

How to Get Engaged
Both traditional and same-sex weddings are possible in The Sims 4. In order to get Married, Sims must first be Engaged. To do this, you must build up 40% Friendship and Romance between the two Sims. They must first become Boyfriend/Girlfriend, then the Propose option will appear under the Romance menu. It's best to do this when both Sims are in a good mood and with a little extra Romance built up between them - about 60% - so that the Sim isn't rejected. The proposal is usually accepted, but you don't want something to go wrong. If that happens, your Sim can become Mortified - a very high level of Embarrassment that can cause Death. Should your Sim become Mortified, run for a bed and select 'Hide from the World' until it's over, then build up relations between the two Sims a bit more. Once Sims are engaged, you can choose to Elope or have a traditional Wedding.

Eloping makes Sims Married instantly

Eloping
Weddings can be time consuming and your Sim might not have many friends. In this case, you might want to Elope to just get it over with. To wed your Sims instantly and skip the wedding, you can select Elope from the Romance menu once two Sims are engaged or get Married by using a Wedding Arch found under the buy mode menu. They will immediately become husband and wife, without needing to do anything special.

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Before the Marriage

Prior to the Wedding, bake a cake and click it to add a wedding topper

Planning and Starting the Wedding
Before you begin the Wedding, know that cake is always on the list of things to have present. You can bake one beforehand and put it in the refrigerator to have one available at the time, without anyone needing to bake one. Click the cake and you'll be able to add a wedding topper. You may want to also cook some extra food, for caterers are not very good at what they're supposed to do. Thankfully, Sims are just fine with food pulled straight from a refrigerator and will still get good moodlets from it.

Planning a Wedding requires you to select guests, a mixologist, caterer, and musician

When you're ready to start, planning a Wedding can be done through the phone (Plan a Social Event) or by clicking the Sim's fiancee. When you go through this process, the Wedding will begin immediately, so don't do it until you have got your Sims into a good mood - you'll likely also want it to be morning so that Sims who arrive have some energy. Before doing any of this, give your Sims a good night's sleep - that is the one metric you can't fill effectively while at a Wedding. Weddings cost $1,000 Simoleans, and maybe more if want Sims in optional roles but don't know any to fill them...

There is a minimum of two guests, maximum 15. Optional additions are one Mixologist, Caterer, and Musician. This means knowing Sims who have at least a level in Mixology, Cooking, and a Musical Instrument. You may or may not want to use Sims you know because they could have low levels. A Sim cannot fill more than one role at a time. Hiring someone to fill these roles costs $250 each, so you can expect the Wedding to cost from $1,000-$1,750 if you choose to hire Sims to do all three.

The Wedding

Earning Gold at a Wedding means completing objectives to make the party better

Weddings last up to 9 hours. You can click the timer in the party interface to end it early, though it's best to try to pursue the listed goals and get the rewards. You should attempt to do as many as possible, since it'll give some of the money back in the form of rewards. Use both Bride and Groom to do those that take longer, like having food four times. It also makes the experience more like a real Wedding. Pause the game, and one can be working on one objective while the other takes care of a different one. This is key to getting Gold - knocking them out one by one to fill the meter. Each of the three segments represents a medal - fill the first to get a bronze, the second to get a silver, and fill all meters to get a gold for the Wedding. If the first bar isn't filled, you won't get a medal at all.

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The Bride and Groom after exchanging vows

Main Goal: Marry your Bride/Groom
Do this first or at least very early in the party. That way, you have plenty of time to enjoy the experience. This will make other objectives pop up, as 'Have guests watch the ceremony' is always an early objective. You can do this by clicking the other Sim or a Wedding Arch and picking 'Get Married to X'. First, do Exchange Voews once they are together, then a second 'Get Married' to put the rings on. Once this is over, you can pick away at other objectives while enjoying the gathering of Sims.

Guests will spawn at your chosen wedding lot, ready to party. Please them to earn a Gold Medal and the rewards below

Other Wedding Objectives
The following are the objectives that may pop up during a Wedding. You're sure to have most of them, but not all:

  • Have guests watch the ceremony
  • Have 3 drinks
  • Thank a guest for coming
  • Talk to guests for 4 hours
  • Take the first slice
  • Eat food 4 times
  • Have betrothed use Romance interactions 3 times
Top: the appliances and tea set you get for Gold. Below are the Pillar and Centerpiece

Rewards for Bronze, Silver, and Gold Weddings:
Three Rewards are offered for completing a Wedding with one of the three medals. You will find the reward in your Sim's Household Inventory (F2, bottom left) once they get home. The Bronze reward seems to be a gag gift:

  • Bronze - Charisma Vol. 1: Diplomacy for Dummies. A Skill book for Charisma
  • Silver or Higher - Wedding Pillar with Floral Basket and an In Full Bloom Centerpiece
  • Gold - Royal Crabtree Tea Set, The Food Annihilator, and Tea Magic Personal Brewer along with Silver Rewards

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Oliviasays...
At first, my sims Julianne and David's wedding was going great, but then TWO people went into labor and one person DIED! I'm like OMG PEOPLE, I JUST WANT TO HAVE A NORMAL WEDDING IN PEACE. NOT A WEDDING THAT SEEMS LIKE IT SHOULD TAKE PLACE IN A HOSPITAL!!!Scared
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Gretchen Drapersays...

ok. that was bad. but still worth the marriage though, right?

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Hannasays...
My sims have been living together for a while and have a child, but whenever I try to marry them, it says that he works for her and it would be inappropriate for her to marry a sim in her employ. I can't figure out how that happened, or how to 'fire' him.
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Playalotsays...
Sorry about late reply! This is a known bug Link to Bug Report
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Briansays...
Wow... This one is still an issue, I had assumed it was a result of my various mods. This was a while ago, but not too long as one of my sims was a celebrity. Also one of them was an alien shemale, so lots of unusual conditions to cause a glitch. I used MCCC to make them spouses.
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BILL MORGANsays...
CAN YOUR MARRIED SIMS GET DIVORCED,
Admin: Yes. It is under mean interactions.
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Rae Legendsays...
If my sims eloped, can I throw my married sims another wedding or can only engaged couples throw a wedding?
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Playalotsays...
Only engaged sims can throw a wedding party. Smile
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Rae Legendsays...
Thanks Smile
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Rae Legendsays...
Can half siblings be married?
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Playalotsays...
No
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Liamsays...
My wedding was amazing I got gold
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Ninasays...
Really kind of annoying that the bride doesn't take the groom's last name, and that the family structure doesn't change. Like, the bride doesn't see the groom's father and mother as father-in-law and mother-in-law, and his brothers and sisters as in-laws either. Really breaks immersion, since the entire point of my gameplay so far has been to make a large but close family. Like in the Godfather! :P
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Neosays...
my sim's relationships are all full and somehow i cant engage, i checked the romance section a bunch of times but i can never find "engage"
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Playalotsays...
Try getting your sim flirty and seeing if that interaction will appear. Also check that you haven't got any mods that could be causing this.
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Julessays...
Can I have a wedding even I set my sims as spouse in the CAS?
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Playalotsays...
No the game will consider them already married. You would be able to 'Renew Wedding Vows' using a wedding arch but not throw a wedding party/event.
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Ccsays...
Crying my caterer sucks she won't do anything!!!
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Playlotsays...
Yeah, common issue. Unsure Some tips on using a chefs station in this forum thread.
Hiring Caterers Pretty much any hired staff are quite useless. Almost a sims tradition!
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shatinnsays...
1, After the proposal is it compulsory to wed or I can just keep my sims in a fiance status as long as I wish to?
2, Can my sim marry if she is pregnant?
3, Can my sism marry if they allready have some baby/children?
I am hoping all three for a ’yes’ but better ask before I have to load earlier save (again)
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Playlotsays...
1. It is not compulsory to do anything in this game! You can play exactly as you want to, not get married, get married, break up but still live in same house, break up and get remarried, stay engaged forever, never marry... it's all to you.
2. Yes, of course.
3. Yes, of course, why would that not be possible?
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Simplysenpaiisays...
ok there was this mod and i cant find it but the mod basically tells you who gets married, pregnant, adopted and so on and can someone please help me find it
THANK YOUU <3
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Playlotsays...
Sounds like you may be thinking of Master Control Command Center mod
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Simplysenpaiisays...
No like it gives you notifications while your in game or where ever and it updates you on different sims but I'm not sure what is it
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Playlotsays...
Well MCCC does that but try asking on a modding site or in the modding section on the official forums.
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Briansays...
Unless it's a setting I haven't come across, I don't get notifications when those things happen. MCCC does indeed have townies marry and have kids (not necessarily in that order) rather than just growing old and dying while they wait for you to interact with them. But I've never gotten a marriage or birth notice.
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KJ Millersays...
So I had a sim I was playing and decided after a bit that she should have a husband. She hasn't met anyone who she liked, so I made a sim for her and added him to her household. Apparently he somehow works for her. But I can't find where to fire him so she can marry him! Any ideas?
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Playlotsays...
This is a bug sadly. Maybe delete him and then reload him in from your Library.
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Briansays...
Good news! "Sims will no longer be able to lie about employing each other in order to avoid marriage." In other words, they finally fixed that bug!
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Playlotsays...
lol, I have always liked the way the devs report the bug fixes in the patch notes!
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Elbbirtsays...
Can a male sim get married to a female sim, but she not join the house and can they then have babies?
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Playalotsays...
Yes. Smile
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Learner of the simssays...

Hi guys got Sims 4 on Xbox one a couple weeks ago and about to have a wedding but was wondering how to turn on the cheats? And also go into add new sim without the tutorial?

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Playalotsays...

A How -To on Cheats here (click). No idea how to turn off the tutorial on console sorry.

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taytumsays...

Can we be invited to other sims that aren't in our current households wedding? Or do we need a certain mod e.g. Story Progression

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Rsays...

I almost got gold but another sim took the first slice of the wedding cake. Needless to say they live in my basement now.

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Playalotsays...

Always pays to have a back-up cake, for birthday parties too :) If you put on  the wedding topper and birthday candles then NPC;s shouldn't be able to take a slice too

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Gretchen Drapersays...

can sims get married to strangers?

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No the Sims need to have a fairly high romance relationship score for the proposal interaction to appear.

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Girly girlsays...

Whenever I look to try to add my teen sims boyfriend to the household The option isn’t there why can’t I do it?

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Playalotsays...

Teens can't be asked to move in, so to work around that ask one of the adults in the same household but when the moving in window appears choose the teen at that point and not the adult.

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Girly girlsays...

Thanks

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Zachary Talonsays...

How long in advance can I make the wedding cake and other food? I've scheduled the wedding for roughly 2 weeks out so I can prepare properly, and I dont want the food to spoil before the event

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Playalotsays...

Depending on the cooking or gourmet cooking skill level of your Sim usually about 9 days is max. Once the cake is made hover your mouse over it and it will tell you how long until spoiled, it will last longer in a fridge but then will spoil quickly if taken out and left sitting if the cake is a week old or so. One tip is to make it the day before then put the wedding topper on it immediately (then place in fridge). The topper stops other sims from taking a slice and newly married sims can only do the wedding functions on an unsliced whole cake :)

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whwjidhdjasays...

My sims are teens. They may have had a child by mistake

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Asimsplayersays...

Is it possible to get a sim I’m controlling to propose to another sim I’m controlling and invite sims I’m controlling to the wedding?

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Yes

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Kamilasays...

cool



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